Anyone who works in non-profits is likely familiar with the delicate balance that exists between the haves (the wealthy benefactors who literally make it all possible because of their generous gifts) and the have-nots (the majority of the staff that works for sub-standard wages, doing it because they believe in the cause and are passionate about what they do).
This post is merely an observation on what I've encountered, brought to the forefront of my mind because of a movie line from 1986. Read on...
In recent years I've seen two distinct sides of the "haves." The first group is those who give silently (i.e. no strings attached), and/or are practical and let the doers do their jobs. They listen, advise when asked and trust that their money is being spent wisely. Most have done their due diligence. I will call them "the supporters." In many ways, that's what they are. And I truly do love many of them. [This group will hitherto be denoted by TNH - the nice haves.]
The second group I will term "the oblivious rich." Many are at a point in their lives where they do very little for themselves: someone cooks for them, cleans for them, drives for them, books appointments for them, writes letters for them, answers the phone for them, makes their beds for them, lays out their clothes for them (as I'm writing this, I'm noticing a strong resemblance to the relationship that exists between a parent and a small child... I digress). They either have never had to do any of this, or they've not had to do it in so long, that if asked to do it, they would have forgotten how. [This group will hitherto be denoted by TOR.]
Please understand that I do not take "the haves" for granted. No one is forcing anyone to part with their money on our behalf. Most truly are doing it out of the shear kindness of their heart. And, seriously, we are really lucky to have people in our community that care enough about what we're doing to just give us their money. Without them I wouldn't have a job. I do sincerely appreciate that.
Here are some fun stories I'd like to share about each of these "haves" groups:
TNH Stories
We took a very large book donation and needed someone to help process and catalog it. A group from the museum just gave us money to get this person for nearly a year. On top of it, one from the group also volunteers with me three hours a week to help do some of the processing. It's truly amazing.
There is a core group of funders in our museum that have time and time again come through in times of crisis: a major sponsor pulls out of a show at the very last-minute and they take up the slack, they endow people's positions, they give money when it's needed with no expectation of acknowledgment or fanfare.
I have several extra-special library donors. These people have incredibly large personal libraries and, from time to time, weed their collections and simply
give me books that a. I really need and b. could never possibly afford. Wonderful!
TOR Stories
When I was in my early twenties, I worked at a medium-sized museum where the benefactors not only pushed through exhibitions they wanted, they also on occasion exhibited their own work! Oh, the concerns of the curatorial staff and the patrons' lack of expertise (and, sorry but, talent) mattered not. Looking back, I still can't believe that was allowed to happen. Where was the AAM when we needed them?!
Over the years, I've experienced the "elevator ambush" more times than I'd care to remember. I get on the elevator at a low floor and find myself with a gang of TORs. By the time I reach my floor I've had at least one new project suggested to me: "Oh, you're the librarian? You should...[insert whim of appalling proportions]" This "suggestion" (i.e. command) is made to me without respect for my time, the actual details around how much money, effort, personnel it will take and whether or not it will actually matter or have some amount of positive effect.*
Here is a sampling of projects that have been suggested to me:
- Why not just digitize all of the artists files (all umpteen thousand of them and their contents)?
- Just get a high-grade color copier in here. How expensive could it be? (Try $15,000 plus the ongoing maintenance contract, the very high cost of replacement cartridges, my time every time it jams...)
- Why can't we move the archives back here? (All 900 linear feet of them! I don't even have room for all of my books.)
- You need to get more space so you can buy more books. (No s#@t!!)
We all know that this is one of the worst financial times in the history of the United States. Corporations and non-profits alike are bare-boned with very low morale. Ask anyone. Really, ask anyone. This is a time when we are barely able to maintain, much less take on time- and resource-consuming projects.
I think people think that because not a lot of new things are happening it's because we've just run out of ideas or creativity, rather than the real reason: there is no money, no personnel and little support for taking on anything new. We're all just trying to survive!
I've observed that the number of TOR suggestions (whims) has risen dramatically during this period. Ho hum.
***So, what prompted me to write about all of this in the first place? It wasn't because a particular suggestion from a TOR finally pushed me over the edge. (That already happened.) I was recently bed-ridden with the flu and spent a good deal of time watching movies. One of my all-time favorite films
Pretty in Pink was on. There is a poignant line in the film that started this whole train of thought. Let me set the scene: Andy, the film's protagonist - a girl from literally the wrong side of the tracks - is justifying to her friend Ducky why she should be able to go out with a rich guy like Blaine - someone who's got a lot of money, but is kind and really likes her. She states:
"Hating them because they have money is just as bad as them hating us because we don't."
True. I'll admit that when I initially react to unpleasant TOR suggestions, I tend to be a hater of the wealthy. But Andy has reminded me: it's not the having money part that causes TORs to make others' lives hell, it's that they've lost their common sense.
*Please, please remember I'm a solo librarian. I am the only one who works in my library.